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*SHORTLISTED FOR THE KIRKUS REVIEW AWARDS FOR NON-FICTION & LONGLISTED FOR THE NATIONAL BOOK AWARDS FOR TRANSLATED LITERATURE*

‘Extraordinary. It is about death, but I can think of few books which have such life. It shows us what love is’ Max Porter, author of Grief is the Thing With Feathers and Lanny

‘There is no one quite like Naja Marie Aidt’ Valeria Luiselli

‘Devastating, angry, challenging, fragmented and filled with the beautiful hope that the love we have for people continues into the world even after they’re gone’ CultureFly

‘A book about death that pulses with life’ The Lady

‘Fragmented, poetic, informative and truthful, Aidt faces the greatest loss we can ever know with all the force of great elegy writers like Anne Carson and Denise Riley. Essential’ Polly Clark, author of Larchfield and Tiger

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“I raise my glass to my eldest son. His pregnant wife and daughter are sleeping above us. Outside, the March evening is cold and clear. ‘To life!’ I say as the glasses clink with a delicate and pleasing sound. My mother says something to the dog. Then the phone rings. We don’t answer it. Who could be calling so late on a Saturday evening?”

In March 2015, Naja Marie Aidt’s 25-year-old son, Carl, died in a tragic accident.

When Death Takes Something From You Give It Back is about losing a child. It is about formulating a vocabulary to express the deepest kind of pain. And it’s about finding a way to write about a reality invaded by grief, lessened by loss.

Faced with the sudden emptiness of language, Naja finds solace in the anguish of Joan Didion, Nick Cave, C.S. Lewis, Mallarme, Plato and other writers who have suffered the deadening impact of loss. Their torment suffuses with her own as Naja wrestles with words and contests their capacity to speak for the depths of her sorrow.

This palimpsest of mourning enables Naja to turn over the pathetic, precious transience of existence and articulates her greatest fear: to forget. The insistent compulsion to reconstruct the harrowing aftermath of Carl’s death keeps him painfully present, while fragmented memories, journal entries and poetry inch her closer to piecing Carl’s life together.

Intensely moving and quietly devastating, this is what is it to be a family, what it is to love and lose, and what it is to treasure life in spite of death’s indomitable resolve.

Publisher Review

Fragmented, poetic, informative and truthful, Aidt faces the greatest loss we can ever know with all the force of great elegy writers like Anne Carson and Denise Riley. Essential. * Polly Clark, author of Larchfield and Tiger * There is no one quite like Naja Marie Aidt. She's comparable only to things like sequoias, whale-song, desert thunderstorms, or wolves. The depth of her emotional world and the diaphanous, often brutal clarity with which she understands the human soul beckon us to pause, breathe, think. Here, she takes us on a journey into death and loss, and then thrusts us back out-back into life-more awake, more ready to embrace it as it comes. * Valeria Luiselli * Like grief itself, this book isn't a linear thing; it's devastating, angry, challenging, fragmented and filled with the beautiful hope that the love we have for people continues into the world even after they're gone. * Culturefly * Extraordinary. It is about death, but I can think of few books which have such life. It shows us what love is. * Max Porter, author of Grief is the Thing With Feathers and Lanny * An immense work of art ... an extremely beautiful and shockingly sorrowful work and a declaration of love's communality. One of the most painful and paradoxically one of the most beautiful books I have ever read... * Kristeligt Dagblad * Naja Marie Aidt's book on the loss of her son is a genuine and unbearable masterwork. ...[Her writing] about death, grief and the indescribable consequences make up this incredibly good book. I wish Aidt never had to write about this endless nightmare, indeed, one of its most important points is that grief never goes away. And yet, we now have a book without illusions, a merciless and insistent depiction of how deeply death reaches into the body and soul. Aidt has rendered a convincing reconstruction of the depths of grief. * Jyllands Posten * Naja Marie Aidt's shattering elegy about her grown son's death is a modern Greek tragedy-and a relentless account of grief's deepest reality. * Weekendavisen *